Ok, so Quinn is going to be 11 next week. He weighs 80lbs. I'm not sure where that falls in the "growth chart" but he's short too. He is NOT fat, but he's got a little belly on him. We went jean shopping for school last month and he had to buy husky's b/c of the belly, the butt was hanging off him. Now he's a wreck, thinks he's fat, wants to diet, etc. Any ideas on how to handle this? I don't want to say the wrong thing!
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ugh I soooo know where your coming from. Alisyn weighs probably right around 100 lbs. She will be 11 next month. She is tall but she has a belly as well and she is just a thicker kid. I wouldnt call her fat by any means but she is meaty if that makes sense. My sister was built the same way when she was younger. I was always skin and bones where she was thicker everywhere. I am always watching what I say around her but I also dont want to let her develop bad habits now to where her weight truly does become a problem. I have enrolled her in gymnastics again because she loves it and I knew that was one way to get her active again and to build the muscle tone back up and maybe she will thin out a bit. I would tell him that dieting is not really healthy for a kid that is growing. One thing I know I want to do is start a whole family thing, where we ALL try to keep our bodies healthy. I have been trying to keep lots of junk food out of the house, I never buy easy snack type food because it makes it too convenient to just grab and eat. I am going to be watching this thread for ideas though. I am always worried about Alisyn getting body image issues from things that are said. I have austin and sometimes even Eric that say things that I really wish they wouldnt.
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It's hard! I feel the same as you. Quinn has started swimming again after having the summer off, so I hope that helps. Unfortunately the boy loves his sweets and his carbs, just like his mommy! I just keep telling him he's beautiful and that if he wants to be healthier (I refrain from using the word thinner) I'll help him. Good luck to you too, April!
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I am also holding out hope that its just the pre-puberty changes in her body that are making her thicken up some. She had always been super skinny, needing slims in pants just like my other kids but in the last year and a half she slowly started to thicken up. Nothing really changed, she may eat a little more than before but I dont think its a LOT more.
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You know I remember going thru all that when I was younger. My mom encouraged us to go ahead and work out if we wanted to as far as running etc. I ended up on the cross country team and did very well. That helped me thin out alot. She never encouraged us to go on a diet just to cut back and eat healthy because of sports.
I remember my dad actually telling me that the body changes its shape about every 60 days or so. And that sometiems it sticks "fat" cells in certain places so that it can ajust to the new muscles and such and that as long as I was active it would work itself out. I believed him and just made myself get involved. Plus my mom always made sure we had the right size of clothing if you catch my drift.
So I think you both are on the right track and sometimes the body just does weird things.
After I had Ty I was able to fit into a size 7 jean. Now 6 months latter i am in a 9 but weigh less. and im working out.
Maybe start a whole family thing and go for a walk at night...it'd b "family time". I wasn't really fat as a kid but definitely had a belly...I thinned out between 6th and 7th grade when I joined the school softball team. Swimming is definitely good, maybe local track team would be a good idea.
I can relate...Brie is about 5'4 and 160 pounds....and her chol is horrible though too....so we have the whole overweight thing going...and per her doc she is suppose to eat healthier....we do good food , bad food, and never mention weight once...and now I use cholesterol....the kids weight is not mentioned.
Brie's been doing better....I told her as well as cutting back on the stuff high in cholesterol it would help her to exercise to get it down...even if it's just playing outside a little more.
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