and I know I am a major worrier but I found out yesterday that a freshman here committed suicide.Not too long ago there was a high schooler in another school in our county that killed himself too. I get so worried about this because I know I had some moments in my teen years where I thought it would be the answer but knew I could never follow through with doing it because of how much it would hurt my mom. So hearing about that yesterday and just thinking about the struggles and pain alisyn is already having in school because girls are just MEAN has just made me feel sad. I feel sad for the kids that feel like there is no better option then to end their lives, I feel sad that kids can be sooooo brutally mean and hurtful to each other, I hate that us parents have to worry about this more and more now because it seems the more attention things like this get the more appealing it becomes to those kids who are hurting. Man being a parent is just suuuuuch a hard job. A local church was opening up last night with counselors and youth ministers there for those who needed to talk to someone and I honestly wanted to go. It was for the kids mostly but I just thought man, us parents need somewhere to go. It would be nice to have a big meeting or something where parents could all just come together and talk about this stuff and maybe give out advice on what to look for, how to approach certain things, etc. I am sorry for the long ramble but my mind has just been working overtime lately I guess.

That is really tough, you just have to have a open relationship with your kids I think and really talk to them ALOT. My sister tried many times to kill her self after my dad got remarried because she felt so alone and I know now all she wanted was just love from my dad and to have the attention she used to. Not only that but kids are mean, very mean, and the parents of those kids need to go to couseling and learn how to be better parents and be taught compassion, so they can teach their children. I just cant believe that, its so sad.

Ya know what Ape...you sound a lot like me...I worry about stuff all the time...even if I am outwardly calm and knowing in my head I shouldn't stress about it....and you know what I say...you should have went and seen one of the counselors....the counselor we have been seeing is talking with me a lot about worry and making yourself worry...and how if you can and I don't think I can put this like she did...but if you just say okay...say it happens...what do I do...and go ahead and plan how you would deal with it...knowing and having already figured out how you would handle certain situations will keep you from worrying so much about them...it takes away some of the anxiety...and yeah know what it works...I've already tried it...

And I agree with Lauren....I'm very very big on teaching my children kindness, and compassion and how to treat other's....because some many people in the world today have none of the above...it's really sad.

OH yeah my kids have it drilled into their heads that they better not be mean to kids who might not be the most popular or whatever. I may be a fool but I really think they are kind to those kids. I know Austin may just ignore some people but I dont think he is mean. Shoot my cousin goes there and he is a kid that has had a HORRIBLE family life, has no money is just that kid that you know everyone makes fun of but when I have asked Austin if he sees him at school he says he does and I ask if he talks to him and he always says hi to him and judging by the way my cousin acted when he saw him once when we were out I truly think Austin is kind to him. He was happy to see Austin and they sat there and talked a bit. And Alisyn, she is the one I worry about the most because i just dont know how to describe her personality.........she has that dont mess with me attitude and if someone makes her mad she will let it be known but at the same time she is super sensitive and has had many break downs over issues at school. But I do know she is kind to those who tend to be made fun of. For her bday party I let her invite so many people and when asking her who she invited she named them all off then there was one name I didnt recognize so I asked about it and she told me that it was this girl that probably doesnt ever get invited to peoples parties so she wanted to invite her to hers. And Chelle, to try and picture how I would handle the situation about this I honestly have NO idea how I would handle it. I think it would crush me but then at the same time I know I would have to be strong for my other kids. I really need to figure out how to deal with all my worries I have. I have so many its pathetic lol.

Being a parent is super scary. I worry constantly about things that i should not and have no control over. This is by far the toughest job I have ever had. Try not to worry yourself too much. I know.....easier said then done.

Yep Christel....it is super scary and honestly between parenting and marriage I can't decide which is tougher...I think maybe parenting cause there is more worry involved..

April, I'm the same way and actually so is James....we both are super worriers but we worry about different things... that's why counseling last night was about worrying and stressing ourselves out! lol

There are lots of things I don't know how I would handle either...she told me last night to think about it and try to come up with a plan...

Maybe you could talk to those at the church to set something up for the parents too. It may be something they hadn't really thought of yet. Couldn't hurt to mention it and see what happens. Or organize it yourself.

And as for worrying, I am terrified of what will happen to Sandra in middle school. I do not want to send her there.

Big hugs to you, it is so heartbreaking when children can't think of a way out and they kill themselves. And as a teacher, I see daily how horrible children can be to each other. That's heartbreaking too. And I agree, it's such a scary responsibility to parent these days. We are up against soooo much it's overwhelming. My prayers are with that poor child and his/her family.

I understand completely, I feel the same way. Even when I hear of accidents and kids that are hurt or even die it makes me worry...I am a worrier at heart too.

Oh yeah I do that too, we had a 13 yr old boy die after wrecking his four wheeler a year ago around here and it made me want to sell our 4 wheeler. Then shortly after that a girl wrecked her car only a couple weeks after getting her license and she died and that made freak out about my kids learning to drive because she was on a gravel road going too fast and we live on a gravel road. I need to just stop worrying!

I am the same way.I worry to the point where it causes problems for me (and everyone else that has to listen to me)I dont know how to handle stress very good at all,and I also worry about stuff that most people wouldnt think twice about.