Ahhhh, this is a sore spot in my house right now! Quinn really wants a page...he will be 11 in a few weeks. I know I could trust him with it, as I would have the password and would know what he was up to all the time. Plus, he's just not a sneaky kid (yet, lol). But since I'm getting divorced and we are both fighting for full custody, I don't think it would be in my best interest to let him get a page right now. It might look like I'm too permissive, kwim? So for now, no facebook or anything for Quinn.
Posts: 19388 | Location: New York State | Registered: Tue May 09 2006
Jeremy is 14 on sunday & he has one. Damien wants one & i will set it up for him when I get a chance. i dont have an issue with it cause I can see everything thats on his wall anyway!
If Ariel showed interest, I'd probably let her have one. But of course I'm always going to know passwords and the friends she has on there. I can totally see why you wouldn't right now though, MaryBeth. I'd be the same way! But honestly Ariel's too young and could care less. I just let her play the games on mine. lol.
Posts: 18757 | Location: North Carolina | Registered: Mon January 24 2005
Both Shelbey 16 and Brittaney 14 have my space and facebook. I have all passwords and can look at them at any time. They are setup so that they cannot chat with anyone over 18 and both girls profiles are private. They have had them for about 1 year and have been really responsible with them. I just think it is a fun way to connect with friends and things and if it is monitored it can be safe.
Ya know,I actually hated the idea of kids shaving FB or Myspace... BUT As long as I am on it I kinda like it, because other kids(their friends) have NO CLUE your the mom etc...and its kinda a good way to see how your kids really are . Make sense??
I totally understand what you are saying Megan....
All three of mine have a fb...and the girls have myspace....they do not have their myspace pword so I can only log them in...I do let them have their fb pword though....and now they hardly get on myspace...
All our family including my dad, aunts, cousins have FB so I let my kids and pretty much we can all monitor what they are doing...my cousin in law watches them too and will report things back to me...I feel that in a controlled environment there is nothing wrong with these sites....and with us all watching it's controlled...yet not untouchable where they would sneak and have them...which I have friends whose kids have because their parents didn't want them having one...but then again I am pretty liberal...
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Posts: 62351 | Location: Louisville, Kentucky USA | Registered: Mon October 20 2003
Justin has had one for almost a year now. I have his password and I go on his account whenever I want to snoop around. He knows that I will check it whenever the mood strikes me so he sticks to stuff that he should for the most part. I did find some stuff on there, groups he had joined that I didn't approve of so I went and removed him from them,. blocked them and then told him that was his one and only warning and the next time I would lock him out of his account. I think they are fine for kids to have as long as parents are monitoring them/. Also all of my family and Kirk's family are on Justin's page so everyone keeps an eye on him.
when raianna and elyse get to that age...and raianna is close NO WAY!!! frankie has one and im not really happy about that but there isn't much karl or i can do about that....maybe when they are like 16 with monitoring....
Lexi (she is 13) used to....but we had a horrible experience with a 19 year old male stalking her. The police were involved and that situation took care of itself. I guess it was just an eye opener for me. I had her password, blocked inappropriate things,and monitored her. The police said facebook has become a huge open door for sexual preditors. So we deleted her page.
Posts: 2869 | Location: Minnesota | Registered: Sun September 02 2007