Well Here is my story if you could reply back with comments or suggestions that would be great!

About 5 months ago I had a miscarriage. It was an unexpected pregnancy but i was very happy with it. I was very devestated when i found out it was a miscarriage.


We have waited and now I want to try and conceive. This is our first month trying. My periods are always 28 days. Even when i had the miscarriage they went right to 28 days. The miscarriage was also very very early. I was only 2 weeks along.

I had my period this month on june 2nd. I am supposed to get it the 29th of this month. I knew when i was ovulating and we had sex A LOT during this time.

I want a baby so bad and I am having all of these horrible thoughts like what if i cant have children or what if i dont get pregnant. It has always been my biggest fear. All i have wanted to do is become a mom and I am scared something will go wrong.

Now i am just waiting. I took a HPT two days ago and it was negative. I know it was extremely early, but i am going crazy. DO you think this means im not pregnant or is it just way too early to even tell. I want to be pregnant so badly and I am loosing my mind thinking about it. Please HELP!!!! PLEASE!

First, Welcome!

It is way toooooo early to test! Don't stress yourself by testing early. I fell into that trap too and it only leads to disappointment, frustration, and what-ifs. My DH and I have been TTC #1 for almost 3 years so I know what you're feeling. It's been a difficult path but it helps to not worry about it everyday. It can and will consume you. We've had testing completed 2 years ago and now know what the problem is. We also had a miscarriage last summer. Hang in there! I wouldn't test until AF was due.

Thank you so much for your comments. I am new to this and it was so nice to hear what others thought and their experiences. Its hard waiting but i know it is the best thing to do. Thank you again and good luck to you!

I agree with Telli. It's WAAAAAAAAY too early to get an accurate reading with a HPT. I had a miscarriage about 6 months before I got pregnant with my first son. Most of the time, it's just something that happens and it usually signals that something was wrong with the embryo. Be patient is all I can say. It will happen but the more you stress and worry about it, the longer it's going to take for you to get pregnant. Hang in there and good luck!!

I agree it is too early to test. I just wanted to wish you good luck and tell you that I have several friends who had a miscarriage with the first and then successfully carried the very next baby. My mom says sometimes your body just needs a little practice to be ready for the real thing. Good Luck!

THANK you. I truly appreciate all responses. I was wondering when is the abs. earliest you can test?

Crystal,

I am sorry to hear about your angel leaving you. Its a little too early to tell but dont freak out and start worring about it. 96% of women will miscarry at some point in ther life only about 12% ever realize they were pregnant to begin with.

I got pregnant in March of last year and lost my baby at 9.5 weeks in May. I did the same thing you did and freaked out about it. I then realized that there was a reason for it. I thank God that he did not allow that baby to be born and suffer with some type of problem. This way he is in Heaven living a better life.

Trust me I freaked out soo much over Tylers pregnancy. I did not know I was pg for a while, we were not going to attempt for at least 6 months. At first my HCG levels would not go down so when I got really sick they were going to a D&C on me. When the blood work came back in July (july 21st to be exact) the DR called me and told me I was pregnant. I freak and every bad thing I thought of came to mind. I checked every time I went to the bathroom, I also went extra just to make sure.

So I MC'd on May 19th and concieved Tyler on July 4th. So it can happen and it can result in a healthy pregnancy. However my DR warned me that if I didnt stop freaking out I would put too much stress on my body and it would most likely get rid of the easiest thing the baby first to relieve my worry.

So calm down and allow your body to accept a pregnancy naturally. Remember it can take up to a year after a MC to concieve, and if you do end of PG just take it one day at a time.

Best of luck

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. I can't imagine everything you went through. The reason why I am so eager to test early is because when I had the miscarriage I tested early. I took a HPT and it came back positive a few days past my ovulation day. it was so weird. I also got blood work taken for my HCG and it was 55 then began dropping two days later. Is this a chemical miscarriage? I know there was a reason for the miscarriage. I am just so scared it will happen again or i wont be able to conceive. I want to be pregnant so badly and I am so bad at waiting I want it to happen this month. I want to test on fathers day but i will only be 8 DPO. If it shows a negative I will be disappointed but then again it probably is too early to show. UGH!

You really need to wait to test because it's WAY WAY to early. You need to relax like the others said and it will happen when it's time.
All the stress you are putting on yourself is not going to make you get preg any faster.

I conceived my 1st son the month after I went off the pill. It took 20 months to conceive this one. Getting pregnant is sometimes not as easy as it seems.

Welcome Crystal.
I agree with everyone else that it's too early to tell. FYI, I too had a miscarriage and I got pregnant just 2 months after I had it with my 2nd child (we are awaiting #3 now). It took us 5 years to get pregnant with my son but I think a lot of that was due to the stress I was going through in trying too hard if you know what I mean. Anyway, relax if you can and enjoy the whole process, starting with enjoying the closeness with your man up until your baby is in your arms and it will be a beautiful thing from start to finish.

The absolute earliest you could take the test? Who knows? I would wait until you're period is supposed to start - maybe a day or two before, but no sooner.

Try not to think about it so much. It is easy said then down because I am in the same boat you are but that is what everyone keeps telling me. Wait until your AF is due and then if you are a day or two late then take a HPT. Good luck and Baby Dust to you

I agree with everyone about testing. I would actually wait until your AF is late for a few days to a week. I know it is hard to wait cause you just got to know but you will save yourself the stress of looking at a negitive test. My first test I took, was when I was almost a week late and it was a very faint line, I waited a few days and it was alot darker. Good luck with everything and most important relax and have fun with it and don't make it a chore in any way. It will only cause you and your DH stress which is not good when TTC. I finally gave up trying so hard and after 17 months of TTC we finally had a little bean.