As alot of you know, Michael & I only stopped TTC because I basically cracked & couldnt take it anymore with the miscarriages & such, well I went to the dr on Thursday & was talking at length about the problems & all cause Michael is still 100% wanting to have a baby with me & as I said to the Dr I want it to be my choice if I want another child, not my body's, well to cut a long story very short, he has done a heap of tests to see if he can determine why I have recurrent miscarriages, he said they can tell alot from the bloods & see if there is anything wrong with me, he also upped my dose of metformin for the pcos, & he asked me what my fears are of trying to concieve, & obviously it is miscarry, having another premmie & stuff, well he got my results from my last miscarriage & said that I had VERY low progesterone & that could of been one of my problems, said that there is a way of fixing that & that if im interested in TTC again that he will put me on Clomid to stimulate my ovaries as I dont ovulate on my own, he said that they will moniter me really closely if I concieve & that when I get to 12 weeks they will put a stitch in my cervix & all in all will try to do everything to help me.
BUT my problem is, YES I would near do anything for Michael & I to have a child together but we have lost 3 babies in as many years, when do I stop trying completely, kwim, what if i try again just to not concieve, what if I try again & miscarry again, what if I fall but then something happens to the baby in later stages, I AM SO VERY SCARED, I really dont know if I can take anymore heartache, & im heaps worried about clomid BUT I know now that I cant concieve on my own, What do I do?? I really need advice here ladies, I go back to the dr on the 30th & he said if my results come back ok that he would give me a script for the clomid then.. Advice please???
We've had 5 miscarriages and are on our way to what we hope is our third healthy baby. It gets very hard. Just like you, I gave up. I stopped the Clomid, I stopped trying, I stopped everything and somehow, by the grace of God, we got pregnant anyway and I was terrified. That time, we were lucky. I guess what I'm saying is, it's a leap of faith to go through it again and there's no gurantee that it will turn out well...but, when it does, it almost washes away the hurt from the losses. IT doesn't get rid of it completely, but it does give them purpose...a kind of, this was why kind of feeling. Only you will know if you're ready to go through it again but if you do, we'll be there for you and if you want to chat with someone that understands, I'm available. I've been through the PCOS, the miscarriages, the disapointment when you don't get pregnant for years on end, all of it so I'll certainly listen. Good luck to you whatever you decide.
I can understand why you are so scared and I know I would be too if I had multiple miscarriages. However, if the Dr can pin point why these keep happening and give you something for that, I think I would try again. Clomid is not bad and I didnt have any side effects other than some weight gain. I too am on Metformin because of PCOS and uping the dosage might be a good thing. I know losing just a little weight with PCOS does wonders in getting pregnant and I think that is how I conceived Jayden. I wish you the best in your decision and I know it's going to be hard because of the emotional stuff that comes along with it but I think with all your Dr can do for you I would go for it!!!
Posts: 25657 | Location: Milwaukee WI | Registered: Fri January 13 2006
Originally posted by ~Morgan~: I'm somewhat confused....are you afraid of the Clomid itself or are you afraid of actually getting pregnant only to have bad things happen??
I've been on Clomid for 12 months now and have had zero side effects whatsoever...
I'm more afraid of the multiple baby aspect of things, & the side effects, you gotta think when it comes to the multiples, we already have a high risk as we have concieved twins naturally, & we are not exactly a normal family trying for a baby, we are a family that already involves 8 kids, 5 being which live with us, its not that I dont want twins, I just worry that it would make me more likely to miscarry considering I cant keep one baby in anymore let alone to, if that makes sence!
Originally posted by Amber1976: We've had 5 miscarriages and are on our way to what we hope is our third healthy baby. It gets very hard. Just like you, I gave up. I stopped the Clomid, I stopped trying, I stopped everything and somehow, by the grace of God, we got pregnant anyway and I was terrified. That time, we were lucky. I guess what I'm saying is, it's a leap of faith to go through it again and there's no gurantee that it will turn out well...but, when it does, it almost washes away the hurt from the losses. IT doesn't get rid of it completely, but it does give them purpose...a kind of, this was why kind of feeling. Only you will know if you're ready to go through it again but if you do, we'll be there for you and if you want to chat with someone that understands, I'm available. I've been through the PCOS, the miscarriages, the disapointment when you don't get pregnant for years on end, all of it so I'll certainly listen. Good luck to you whatever you decide.
Thankyou heaps, I knew I could rely on you guys to help with my sill fears, lol!
I agree with Lorna, only you can decide if you are ready to try again. I know that it's a scary thought but I truely belief that everything happens for a reason and that we aren't given anymore then we can handle.
Posts: 2058 | Location: Somewhere in Canada | Registered: Wed January 04 2006
Going through one miscarriage, an IVF and a failed FET, there's no way personally that I can go through any more fertility treatments. I think most people don't understand the roller coaster ride that puts a person through. I agree with what some of the others have said, only you can make that decision as to what fits for you and your family. Good luck!
Posts: 4298 | Location: North Carolina | Registered: Mon June 04 2007
I sadly have been through (2) m/c's, and they finally diagonsed me when I found out I was prego with JT. I never have been on Clomid, I am scared out of my wits because I have no clue how my body is going to be acting like when I do finally concieve! I have a syndrome I guess you could call thats called anticardiolipins where my body eventually thinks the fetus is a virus like a cold, and eventually rejects the fetus out of my body. When I was prego with JT, I was on hormones and baby asprian throughout my first trimester! I was blessed with JT 9 months later! I know its hard, but hang in there and hope for the best!!
Please don't afraid. I know, easier said than done. I too had a low progestrone level when I was trying to conceive the first time. I didn't want to try clomid until later, but doctor said that if I do get pg there is a risk my a miscarriage. I did take the clomid, 4 rounds, and I was pg. This time around, no clomid, and I was nervous about losing the baby, but the nurse said that my progestrone levels were beautiful. No problems.
With the clomid, I did have a cyst, and that is a side effect, but it went away on its own. It did help us have the little boy we have now.
Good luck to you.
Posts: 2627 | Location: Buffalo, NY | Registered: Mon October 30 2006
