Well we made it through our adoption meeting on Friday. We learned a lot and I cried a lot! Some of the stories were so touching. It really made us think about a lot of things. Anyways, we are getting ready to get going on the homestudy...3 visits...first 2 will happen at the office and the last will happen here. After that our social worker will have 30 days to write the report. Once the homestudy is complete we'll officially be waiting!

So, there's all this talk about setting up a nursery. At first, we were totally against it. Mainly because what if something happens and we don't get chosen etc. However, they expressed over and over at this meeting if you can wait things out, you will go home with a baby. We know this but I guess with all the letdowns of infertility, it leaves you scared. One of the adoptive parents that spoke said that you should enjoy this waiting time just as you would as if you were pregnant. Get the nursery ready, buy some of the necessary things etc. My DH said maybe we should go ahead and begin to get the room ready after the homestudy is finished. When I thought about it, it just made me really excited...one because he's so excited but two because someday we really are going to be parents.

So all of that to ask, what do you think?

At first when I read this i was like no that would make me horribly sad just to have the nursery there BUT thinking about it, i think i agree and would go ahead and treat it as if you were pregnant in a way, if that makes sense, i've already started wanting to get the nursery ready for this baby and i'm far away from having him or her, i'd have fun with it, it'll make it seem more real for you'll and one day soon you'll will come home with a baby, i think it'd be a lot of fun to go ahead and get ready. I am so excited for you'll i just can't imagine what you'll are going through!

My best friend just adopted her son a couple of months ago. They waited a long time...but, when they did get chosen, they only had about a month between when they found out and when they had the baby in their arms. They didn't have anything ready so it was awfully hard for them for the first few weeks...not that they minded. That being said, knowing my friend, she would not have done well with an empty nursery for all the time she waited so for her, it was the best way.
I think you just have to know yourself and how you are going to react to it. I'm glad things are going so well for you though.

I think it would be fun and easier on the pocket book to start getting things now and slowly building up the nursery. I think if it were me in your shoes I would go ahead and start preparing. You can always get the crib, changing table, onesies, sleepers in neutral colors, blankets toys etc.

My friend had her nursery set up ahead of time. It was such a blessing for her. I think it really made her fill up with hope and she really enjoyed doing it. It was set up for a good 3 years and I think when she needed the hope, she walked in there and just knew God was going to bless her with a baby and this was the room for it. She even set it up for a baby girl and that is exactly what she got.
Anyway, that's my two cents! I say go for it!

My cousin did the nursery ahead of time. She looked at it like if it was Gods will it will happen. So she prayed about it and she said not only did he want her to have a nursery he even gave her an idea for a theme.

They were very excited to bring the baby home to a completed nursery. I think you have made such a milestone that you should really work on the nursery.

My friend who adopted had her nursery done as well. She cleaned the room out, had it painted and had a crib in there for her homestudy...mainly just b/c that is what she had gotten done. Before she turned her profile in for birthmothers to review, she had is more decorated and she included pictures of the nursery in her profile which I think is a wonderful idea. There are so many precious gender neutral things you can do. Then like someone else mentioned, you can slowly purchase supplies and make it easier on your check book.

You ARE in your pregnant stage...and you should feel free to act as such! And they are right...if you wait it out, you WILL be parents! So wonderful! I'm always so excited to read your updates! My friend is waiting to be matched for her second child and I pray every time my phone rings and her number shows up that she is calling me with good news!

I say go for it, good luck and have fun! This is your pregnancy and you should enjoy it!!!!

Ok we didn't start the room until we was finish with the classes. So girl Get to gettin....

id start getting ready too.