The past few days has been really rough, my uncle has been fighting cancer for 3 1/2 years and they have started him on a morphine drip, he has been in the hospital for the past 2 weeks, they were going to take him home Monday b/c he wanted to go home but he told his wife last night that he wanted to stay at the hospital b/c she would never be able to walk into the house again knowing he died there, he has told all of his kids bye one by one along with his grandchildren and now he's staying pretty zonked out cuz he's been hurting. The doctors said it could be over tomorrow, they don't give him more than 2 weeks, he has ALWAYS worked so hard to take care of his family and it just doesn't seem fair for him to sit there waiting to take his last breath and knowing that, they have 4 children and like 14 grandchildren, all of them are taking it very hard as expected, my aunt doesn't want to live at this point, they've been married for 36 years, since she was 16 and i can't imagine waht she is going through, she has never lived by herself, so all of our family isn't doing real well right now so if you could keep us in your prayers and especially for him, it kills me to know he is sitting there just waiting to die, i don't think anyone deserves to die like that especially this wonderful man.

Then, yesterday in the midst of all this we find out that the guy dh has been riding to and from work with has lost his son, the son was around 12 dh thinks, he went to a b-day party and they were all riding 4 wheelers with tons of ppl. there and the 4 wheeler flipped on top of him, dh was with the guy when he got the phone call, they had luckily been on their way home due to a rainout and not the normal 70 miles away from home, he went straight to the hospital and dh got a call laster that the child didn't make it, it broke his neck and he wasn't breathing by the time the mom got to him. I can't imagine their pain, they had just went on a family vacation and i know they'll be thankful for that but it kills me, it's so sad anytime something like this happens but this happened so close to my house, dh and this guy have became good friends over the past few weeks and dh came in really shaken up by it, he grabbed Nicholas and I and he is still really upset, so if you could please pray for their family. I don't know why but it kinda broke the shield i was holding cuz i haven't stopped crying since, i talked to my mom this morning and found out about my uncle deciding to stay at the hospital and now he can't even open his eyes b/c of the medicine and now all i can do is cry, dh wants to meet me at the hospital this afternoon for me to go see him but i can't go and cry over him and i can't seem to stop crying now so i dunno

My prayers are with them .

Im so sorry and it must be so tough big and you all are in my prayers, try to be strong Shelly, we are all here for you as much as we can be.

Thanks girls, i've calmed down some, i'm not going to the hospital, it's about an hour away and he isn't able to respond at this point, i spoke to my aunt and they have tons of ppl. sitting there just waiting on him to die and it's killing her, she doesn't want everyone up there, his breathing has slowed so she called my mom to come back up there and deal with one of their daughters cuz she is losing it, our family is so huge and this is a small hospital so they put another room aside to let our family wait in cuz all of his kids are refusing to leave until it's over with, my family is going to need me more once it is over and my uncle knows i love him i don't need to rush to his death bed to tell him that, and i really don't want to see him like that hooked up to all of the meds so doped he can't move, i am doing better and i will have to be strong for my family b/c i'm the strong one, i'm the one they can lean on when they breakdown and i just can't do that today, so we are just waiting.

As far as the child we still haven't heard anything, dh has been texting me he is really shaken, the obituary wasn't in the paper today, i didn't think it would be, and this is such a small town his house is swamped with people so dh feels it's better to stay out of the way and be there for him once the crowd trickles out, he texted him today just to tell him if we could do anything to please let us know and we'd be there

Maybe Bubba could team up with some of the guys form work and do something? Maybe a gift card so they could eat out or something or go away when its all over and done ? Or a Maid service for a month etc. Thats all so sad.

my mom was on teh morphine too and I just couldnt do it , go back to the hospitol. I hadnt turned 21 yet so not far off form how old you are. I had tons of peopel telling me id regret it but 18 years later NOPE not one bit! I know its not your mom . But it is the last memomory of her I have . So keep your good memories alive if you can!

I'm sorry you have so much sadness in your life right now. You will be in my prayers.

Anna the entire job site is sending flowers and money, these ppl. were not in a great financial place and they are hurting, no one wants the funeral or burial to be a burden. and the company is sending out some other stuff, Dh was supposed to take all the information to them today, it's such a huge jobsite that not everyone knew him but everyone feels awful for him, most of these men works hundreds of miles from home and see their families a few nights out of the month......maybe, so everyone is sympathetic.

The visitation is tonight here is the article about the accident Link We are going to go to the visitation tonight, dh went and saw the dad last night and he was doing okay, the child was 9, we weren't sure, but the dad said he didn't want dh nor any of his work friends taking off work to come to the funeral, Dh and I talked about it and we agreed we will just do our best to be their for them the most we can once it's all over with and all the extra help right now starts to trickle out. I didn't really know these ppl. they are just ppl. in our town, one who has became close to dh over the past few weeks, they castrated a pig for us but i haven't seen any of them in years. It's just such a horrible thing i want to help in any way I can and we will figure out the best way for us to help for them once things have calmed down a little for them.

As far as my uncle, his lungs are filling up with fluid, my aunt has came to terms that he is laying there suffering and she doesn't want to let him go but she doesn't want to watch him hurt anymore, so far he is still breathing ok, they are scared he'll have to struggle to breathe and no one wants that. I am still perfectly content with my decision not to see him like that, we have a HUGE family so i've been in this position before, and i have done it both ways and I have no desire to see him like that, i think we are going to go to my dads tomorrow night so if we do i will probably stop by the hospital and see my aunt, he can't respond anymore, his muscles are jerking but he can't respond and I can't see him like that, they said he has lost so much weight that the tumor is poking out and just laying there you can see it even through the covers and he looks nothing like he used to

I had a dream last night that my aunt died also, she was very sick so we went and told her bye and as i was walking out angels came for her, i woke up crying and called my mom to make sure everything was okay.

Shelly I'm so sorry for everything. I'll be praying for you, your family, and the family and friends of that little boy. So sad!

As for your decision not to see your uncle, you know yourself best. I saw my Grandpa 2 days before he died of cancer and I have to say it was the scariest thing I've ever seen. I'm glad I got to kiss him and tell him "I'd see him later" but there are nights I still see him in that condition in my mind.. it literally haunts me.

Dh just got in and the guys at work raised A LOT of money for him, they are driving down from Shreveport to be at the visitation tonight, dh is changing then we are going, the company they work for is sending out a memo to all of the project sites they have going on right now and going to allow payroll deduction to where if someone wants to donate they just have to go into the office and sign and the company is going to send the money directly to him, it's very touching, i didn't expect the company to do as much as they are but it's very sweet. I have knots in my stomach about going, i'm still overly emotional but i feel so awful for them, my sadness is NOTHING compared to what they are going through

Prayers for these requests and for you Shelly.HUGS

my uncle passed away about 30 minutes ago, he had been struggling to breathe all afternoon and took his last breath, please pray for our family, especially my aunt.

Also please keep dh and I in your prayers, we now have to go get some kind of vehicle since it's not possible for us to use one vehicle, we still have my car thank God and most of all he wasn't injured in the accident today but it scared me to death, I am having a very hard time right now, and knowing how tragic the accident could have been and the vehicle stuff on top of everything else just feels like a billion weights on top of everything else